planning_babyPlanning a baby is the most important and critical decision that a couple makes. In today’s competitive world couples avoid kids at initial phase  for getting a stabilized career. In my previous article Contraceptive choice for female i have explained all the contraceptive option available.

But once decided to plan a baby, be very careful with your health and habits. Consult  a doctor before planning a baby and if possible undergo a routine checkup. A baby is a sweet responsibility for both of you,  so plan your finances, job schedule, credits etc in advance. Knowing your fertility period and using it will be beneficial for a healthy baby. Here are few tips on do’s and dont’s of planning a baby :

Do’s Of Planning a Baby :

Quit Smoking:

Cigarettes contain nicotine which causes faster deterioration of fertility and premature aging. In women, smoking increases the chances of miscarriage and premature delivery. In men, sperm count is reduced by smoking.

Enjoy  Sex :

Enjoy sex and don’t let it just become a routine of your life. Share your likes, dislikes with your partner. Research shows that sex has a positive effect on your health. A healthy sex reduces problems like irregular ovulation, dryness in vagina, act as a stress buster and removes depression etc.

Develop an Understanding of Your Cycle:

A  women is most fertile when she gets her period, day 12 to 18 are most fertile. During fertile period having sex every alternate day increases the chances of pregnancy.

Develop a Habit of Exercising Regularly:

Carrying and delivering a baby requires the mother to be physically fit and toned. Habit of exercising regularly will keep you in shape and fit, moreover it will also provides you physical strength to deliver a baby.

Get yourself  Tested for Sexually Transmitted Diseases(STDs):

In general STD s don’t  effect in pregnancy, but can effect the baby in long run. Std’s don’t have any common symptoms, so it is advisable to get it checked.

Don’t of Planning a baby :

Avoid using lubricants :

The vaginal lubrication creams usually have spermicide thereby backfiring your effort. Avoid using lubrication and indulge in ample foreplay for women to get well  lubricated.

Reduce Gaps:

Usually while planning a baby it has been seen that men remain abstain ( saving fertility for ovulation ), reduces the motility and quality of sperms. If you are planning a baby having sex alternate days is the most conductive option for pregnancy.

Very Long family Planning.

Woman’s have a limited number of eggs quality of which starts declining after the age of 30. Moreover,  fertility also declines after thirty. In men, the quality of sperm reduces after 30.

Don’t Get up immediately :

Don’t rush to wash yourself after intercourse. Lying down is the best option as it ensure minimum leakage. Semen is vicious and need some time to liquefy. It is advisable to keep a pillow under the hips after intercourse

Do you any other points on planning a baby which i have missed? I would love you to leave me a comment and let me hear your opinion. If you’ve got any thoughts, comments or suggestions for things we could add, leave a comment.

  • sana

    after conception ie after ovulation period is over can one have sex till the next period, or will it harm the pregnancy incase i am pregnant. what are the presaution to be taken afet having intercourse during ovulation.

  • sana

    after conception ie after ovulation period is over can one have sex till the next period, or will it harm the pregnancy incase i am pregnant. what are the presaution to be taken afet having intercourse during ovulation.

  • Rachael

    @sana: it depends as you can get pregnant after ovulation. There is a 25% chance of getting pregnant during ovulation,and a 5% chance when not ovulating.

    If you have intercourse more than 24 hours after ovulation has occurred you will not get pregnant. However, you should wait two days after ovulation just to be safe, because it is near impossible to determine the exact time of ovulation. You should research the FAM (fertility awareness method). It’s a wonderful, accurate way of determining your fertility for both conception and prevention purposes.

  • Rachael

    @sana: it depends as you can get pregnant after ovulation. There is a 25% chance of getting pregnant during ovulation,and a 5% chance when not ovulating.

    If you have intercourse more than 24 hours after ovulation has occurred you will not get pregnant. However, you should wait two days after ovulation just to be safe, because it is near impossible to determine the exact time of ovulation. You should research the FAM (fertility awareness method). It’s a wonderful, accurate way of determining your fertility for both conception and prevention purposes.

  • Sherry

    I have been trying for a baby for months. I do take elvit to help me conceive well.
    I cut down coffee, tea and most of the soft drink. I am 31 now and I am a bit worried if I can have baby.

  • 31 is not too late for conception but ideally under 30 is the best age to conceive. Having said that i will advise you not to worry much about it. Just enjoy sex without worrying about getting pregnant. Have sex every alternate day starting from 7th day of your menstrual cycle.

    After sex don’t just get up immediately as you should wait for 10-20 mins. Moreover, consult your gynecologist and also ask your husband to get sperm count done.

  • Rekha

    Hi,
    I have a 28 day cycle Can I have sex between the 20th day -28th day if I’m tryin to get pregnant. Will it harm if I’m tryin to get pregnant ? Can I use coconut oil as my lubricant ?

  • ABP

    can we have sex after positive pregnancy test?

  • ABP

    can we have sex after positive pregnancy test??

  • Priyanka Manian

    Im newly married..nd frst v used condoms but at tyms v nva used…nw its actually one nd half months since our wedding…i feel vomintting sensation continously in d mrng nd evening…i feel dizxiness too…along with fatique…nd i hate to c food….bt wen testd i found d test idls negative…i hav a problem f irregular periods…so can u say with all tis symptoms whether its s symptom f getting pregnant or symptom of gettimg my periods??