Romance is a wonderful and tender emotion that imparts a new outlook and meaning to our life. You feel like being in heaven. It is a describable emotion but cannot be defined exactly.
When you are in romance with your loved one, you feel like being on top of the world. Nothing comes to your mind except you r beloved face. Natalie Cole has mentioned, “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return”. Your world spin around your beloved and her company is the most sought after thing for you. Someone has rightly stated, “Love is a many splendid thing. Love lifts us up where we belong. All you need is love!”
Love is about how you are bonded with your companion and how strongly you are connected. It is a wonderful blissful experience that is hard to describe. Love is a blessing and it is beautiful to fall so as to experience it. Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.
10 False Notions Encouraged by Romantic Novels
Most of our knowledge about romance comes either from the romantic novels we read or the moves we see. They create some deceptive notions in our minds regarding romance.
Here are listed some of them:
1. A Happy Ending:
Romantic novels always show a happy ending and the lovers living “happily ever after.”In real life this is an absolute lie. Life is full of turmoil and ups and downs. It is not a story written by some author. There are difficult situation you have to deal with and even make compromises.
2. Displaying Grand and Expensive Gestures:
Expensive declarations and useless proclamations are only seen in novels and not in real life. Practically, no one declares or expresses love, care and concern by grand and costly gestures.
3. Tall Dark and Handsome Men:
Novels create a fairyland where all men are tall, dark and handsome and women are curvy, fair and flawlessly beautiful. Is romance only about corporal attraction and not about internal connection?
4. Love Relationships are Easy:
Love relationships are the easiest thing to happen on this planet as portrayed by novels. They just happen and are ever lasting on their own. On the contrary in reality, you have to work on it to make it happen and last too.
5. Love Making Scenes:
Love making scenes are shown to happen every now and then, without even a slightest mention of condom being ever used. Are the lovers are heavenly protected against conception? A fact, that is too far from reality.
6. Financial Security Does not Guarantee Happiness:
Novels always create the impression that financial security will not give you happiness. It does not guarantee everlasting happiness that you will find with your Mr. Right. It will not form a good foundation of a sound relationship.
7. Uncontrolled Passion:
Novels establish the fact that forceful attempt to do something that is uncomfortable for the other person is just an act of uncontrolled passion. It shows hoe involved you are with the other person. This is simply unacceptable. If someone offers resistance or defiance, you should understand it no matter how passionately involved you are?
You cannot thrust yourself on someone without his willingness.
8. Love is a Good Reformer:
Love is a wonderful reformer for drug addicts, alcoholics and even abusers. In reality such things hardly happen. Dealing with such people requires a lot and merely falling in love won’t solve the situation.
9. Stupidly Following the Heart:
No matter how serious or risky the situation, just follow your heart. Heart over brain is what is advocated by romantic novels. You should make balanced decision and listen to your heart as well as mind. Be logical and not an emotional fool in making decision or taking a stand.
10. Extravagant Gifts and Candlelight Dinners:
Love does not require expensive gift and candlelight dinners to show how truthful and sincere you are for your partner. A touch of tenderness and care is all that is needed top show ho involved you are with your loved one. Extravagant gifts are simply a display of your pomp and show.
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